(Note to loyal readers: I know this entry is kinda long and no pictures summore but do take time to finish reading it lah. I very sanfu type gah. Comments are more than welcomed.)
Ever been in a situation where you get involved in a relationship which then ended so fast that you were unaware of it? For example, if you are a girl, you begin dating the guy once he succeeded in courting you. If you are a guy, you go out with all your might courting the girl of your dreams just to be able to get together with her. Few months later, pots and pans fly everywhere and both of you break up. Familiar story, right? I bet most of you had heard of this situation before and some may had been in the situation itself.
So, what’s the rule if you want to get involved in a relationship? Boy likes girl, girl likes boy. Boy asks girl. Both get together. Isn’t that how it usually happens? Well, to some that might be the story but to me I don’t look at it this way anymore. Before I go on further, I would like to say that I’m just giving my opinion. So, all of you couples out there don’t come to my house with your parang, hammer, tongkat, M16, cangkul, sledgehammer, etc. to hemtam me okay?
Well to me the ‘boy likes girl, girl likes boy’ rule doesn’t really apply to me anymore and I quote what my friend said some time ago, “Why want to get into a relationship so fast. They don’t even know each other that well.” (or it was something like that). I gave this a thought, and realized that there’s some sense to it. It’s true. Many couples start their relationship so soon. After boy gets girl, both start liao. I mean, come on, you don’t even know that person inside out; wanna start a relationship so soon? Just because the girl has the looks and the S-yeng or maybe some personality which you like, then you go head over heels already. Then you will consider on courting her. Go buy flowers lah, buy present lah, treat her makan lah, this lah that lah. After few weeks, girl gets her feelings touched; this then results in boy gets girl. This is usually what happens; well at least I’ve seen a couple of cases like this recently. Not long after that, problems arise. Fight, quarrel, boxing match, wrestling match. All of which will end up with both of you breaking up. Most of them do, I guess. Maybe some won’t break up lah but the feeling you both once had will not be there anymore.
Therefore, this is what I think you should do if you want to get into a relationship with another person. First, you should be friends. Get to know each other well. Take note on his/her favourite colour, pastime, movie, music, dog’s name, cat’s name, invisible friend’s name, blah x3. Go out with him/her as a normal friend. Go watch a movie, have lunch, dinner, shopping. Do things you normally do when you’re in a relationship but in this case keep it at ‘the friend’ level. Und? During this time, you’ll get to know each other better. You’ll get to know about his/her favourite pastime and also the dog’s and cat’s name XD. During this time, the guy patut jaga the girl’s hati lah, if you know what I mean.
Do this for awhile, the longer the better. The guy should only make a move when he is truly sure that the girl already has feelings for him. What are you asking? I said the longer the better and you are scared that the guy or the girl would run away to another person? Haha, if such a thing happens then I can assure you that that person is not the one for you. If he/she runs away to someone else, this means that he/she doesn’t have the hots for you. Someone who really likes you will stay and wait =].
Months have passed; you two have become the best of friends, closer than ever. Finally, the guy breaks the questions and both of you end up together *aww*. Happy ending, right? Haha, maybe. It’s all up to you two now. XP
Agree with what I said here? Do you have your own opinion? Leave me comments. Anyways, check back soon for another update where I will blog about ‘the best feeling you’ll have during a relationship’ or more like ‘the best feeling you’ll have before you get into a relationship’. Haha! You didn’t get what I said? Then come back soon for the update.
Nowadays, my entries all emo geh. (o.0)